Become a blowjob expert

Blowjobs, or fellatio, are so much more than the dictionary definition of 'oral stimulation of the penis. They are varied in terms of sensuality, they make for great foreplay, and are an exciting sexual act on their own. They build intimacy and – believe it or not – they should be fun for both the giver and the receiver. Here’s your go-to guide.

Get in the mood

Consent from both parties is a must. It’s about giving pleasure, but not at your expense! Be turned on yourself. Yes, it’s foreplay, but that doesn’t mean you go in cold. Warm them up by giving the foreplay a little foreplay of its own. Touch them over their clothes, talk dirty to them, tell them what you’re going to do with them, release your inner seductor/seductress! When you feel sexy yourself, the experience is going to be better for both of you.

Relax

Mentally, physically, emotionally – loosen it all up. Don’t stress too much about doing it right – your sexual partner will pick up on your tension and will be much happier if you’re enjoying it, too. Like with most sexual activity, it’s a mental game before it’s a physical one.

Relax your shoulders, throat, and jaw. This will allow your mouth to mould more comfortably to the penis and make it better for both of you. 

Positions

Blowjobs aren’t necessarily hard and fast. Depending on the mood, you could be there for a while. So, get comfortable. He could be lying down on his back while you’re perched over him, or he could stand up while you kneel in front of him – do whatever feels natural and most comfortable. Our top tip would be to opt for a pillow beneath your knees if you’re on the ground…you could find a way to pleasure yourself, too. Put a pillow between your legs to rub up against, or position yourself against your partner. Handless vibrators are also a god send in this situation. Get creative!

Building up to it

If you think you’ve done enough foreplay, you could probably go in for a bit more. Once you’re both naked, kiss the area around the penis first – show some love to the stomach, quads, and inner thighs. Some men like their scrotum to be played with, but be gentle because it’s sensitive.

Take your time

Pace is huge when it comes to the art of performing oral sex. Blowjobs themselves are quite rhythmic and, whatever speed you land on, consistency is key if your goal is making them cum. However, the preferred pace varies from person to person. Some like it fast, some like it slow and sensual. A safe bet is to start slowly, licking the penis and using your hand, then gradually building up to a faster pace as you go along.

Communicate

If you’re unsure about what they like or if they’re enjoying it – ask! Good sex is healthy, communicative sex. Speak to your sexual partner about what feels good and what you could do to make it better. This doesn’t have to take the tone of a therapy session – keep up the seduction. Keep it light and sexy. Look up every now and then, keeping the penis stimulated with your hand and ask something like ‘does that feel good?’, ‘should I change it up?’, or ‘do you want me to go faster?’, all while maintaining some sultry eye contact.

Switch it up

Blowjobs can be exciting if you make them exciting. The good news is it’s not that hard to change the current. Using your hands is a sure-fire way of keeping variety while taking some of the pressure off your mouth. Use one or both hands on the shaft of the penis while your mouth focuses on the tip. If you’ve got a spare hand, touch their legs, or torso, or just run your fingers up and down their body for a subtle effect.

The Big 'O'

Condoms can be used during blowjobs to avoid STI transmission, but if you’re confident without one then the question of ‘spit or swallow?’ comes into play. It’s really up to you and what you’re comfortable with. Swallowing is an extra turn on for a lot of men because it increases intimacy, but many blowjob-givers don’t want someone to ejaculate into their mouths (and that’s totally okay). Instead, they could cum onto your body, or you could just take your mouth away when you know they’re close, and finish with your hand.

Whatever your method, remember that blowjobs can be and should be fun! Don’t do anything that you don’t enjoy, talk it out with your sexual partner, and you’ll be a blowjob expert in no time.

Enjoy!

The Roam Team